Becoming an Optimist
Becoming an Optimist
“I’m such a failure! I am always missing the deadlines. I can’t do anything right! I’ll never be good at what I’m doing.” This is one of commonly used pessimistic and critical self-accusing talks. I’m sure you have heard similar examples. How could possibly an optimistic comment look like in such a situation? Well, it might be something like: “This was a difficult project to be finished on time. Oh well, it’s just one of many tasks; I can do much better next time. Now I’ll know how to organize everything effectively.”
Martin Seligman, the psychologist who is considered to be the father of positive psychology, is convinced that optimism can be learned.
He defines OPTIMISM as reacting to problems with a sense of confidence and high personal ability. Specifically, optimistic people believe that negative events are temporary and manageable. When things are going well there is no difference in motivation or performance between optimists and pessimists. But when things aren’t going well pessimists often tend to stop trying and find the internal source of the failure in themselves.
One of the crucial aspects in the process of becoming optimistic is to learn from your mistakes and failures. Do not forget your disasters, simply, just learn your lesson from it and draw the appropriate conclusions. Remember that we all have better and worse days, we all experience crises. But we also have a remarkable ability: we can choose how to react to these experiences. Your response always depends on you.
Countless studies have been conducted on optimism and most of them support the same conclusion: Optimism is healthy! Start your healthy lifestyle with being optimistic 🙂
- live longer,
- have better functioning immune systems, and
- cope better with difficult circumstances.
Top 5 benefits of Optimism:
- Reduces stress level
- Enhances development of interpersonal-skills
- Increases level of productivity and motivation
- Allows to develop the habit of being thankful
- Improves your social life
Are there downsides? There could be if you choose to see the world only through rose-tinted spectacles. The hyper optimistic way may cause loosing an objective vision of the reality. For example: “Although I haven’t finished the project as I was asked but I’m great anyway, because the responsibility for my mistakes are someone else’s”.
The key to the success is balance. It makes more sense to approach one’s tasks in a more rational way: by being aware of the objective situation and modelling it to one’s advantage.
Why don’t you try to seeing the world more optimistically? Take this opportunity now to see stressful situations as something new, interesting and challenging; Something that is giving you a great option to explore and improve your skills. If this is not something you can do naturally or easily, Life Coaching is a great way to support your effort and an investment in a new happy and healthy optimistic lifestyle. Many successful people that I have worked with, returned after our coaching sessions and proudly announced that now they know how to look at the past and approach new situations with an optimistic attitude.
Now it’s your turn, make yourself happy not only today.
Share your experiences and results with me,
This article was published in ‘The Finder’ October 2014, Singapore